Feel Less Awkward With This Simple Strategy

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That lull in conversation coupled with an awkward silence can make any one feel uncomfortable. One of my most prominent memories in awkward conversation is what I call, the curse of the empty drink. Id be at a bar with an empty drink in hand, and when I didnt know what to say or thought I sounded lame, I would take another sip of my empty drink. I still cringe whenever I hear a person slurping their drink.

It would have already been easier to just go get a different drink, but I felt like I was doing something in that moment other than saying nothing, noticing my heart rate going up, feeling my palms sweat, or just looking around the room to keep away from eye contact. I wasnt helping the scenario. As with lots of awkward conversations, I may have been better off bailing from the situation. Occasionally I basically did because I felt too uncomfortable, or I no longer wanted to subject the other individual to my awkwardness.

There had to be a better way. After all, I knew deep down that men and women would be attracted to me once they got to know me. I just didnt need the other person to suffer by way of my awkwardness to get there. A Uncomplicated Strategy I need to share with you a approach you could use to feel less awkward when you dont know what to share.

The greatest part is that anyone can do it in any circumstance. Heres the notion. When you start to feel awkward and dont know what to share, acknowledge something concerning the environment around you. Specifically, something that the each of you can relate to.

For instance, I could realise something unusual about the drink I am holding or an unusual looking drink another person has. Or, I might comment on the lighting in the bar after which relate it to a funny story when the lighting was low & I couldnt see where I was going. Another reason why I like this approach is that you can prepare a small bit ahead of time. You can come up with conversation pieces before you genuinely speak to an individual.

You may recognize something unusual before you even walk into the bar. Then, you could already start thinking about stories you can tell to relate to that subject. 1 location of caution. I strongly encourage you not to get way too precise about something you comprehend & take the conversation into Creepyville.

E.g., I wouldnt notice & measure an modest crack in the floor ahead of time. I wouldnt say Wow, that crack measures 6 inches and looks modest compared to your roughly size ten Nike shoes. Put another way, dont be weird & acknowledge something rather detailed concerning the environment or the other person. However, once you notice something that's a shared experience, it doesnt sound like you pulled it out of left field.

So, in this instance, we could not at the beginning talk out about some random fact about low lighting that we learned from watching the Discovery channel. No, youd speak about how its complicated for you both to see, because the lighting is low in that moment. After youve realised something concerning the environment, associated it to something private within your own life, there is 1 final step to get the other person talking. Subsequent, were going to ask an open-ended question to show them were interested in learning about them.

Lets consider how this conversation may play out. You: Wow, the lighting in here is often low, dont you think? Them: Yeah, it kind of is. You. It reminds me of a time when the lights when out and I in fact ran into a wall.

Yes, I ran into a wall. It was honestly dark where I lived and had trouble finding the flashlight. Im quite possibly not alone in this. How did you react to a scenario when the lights went out? The sequence will differ depending on the context plus the conversation may be shorter or longer.

But, the impression is to talk about a shared experience, relate to that experience, and then get them talking about it. You also dont must make something up or lie about something. Ill bet you can relate to a lot more than you realise. Don't forget, its excellent to do many planning ahead of time & have an arsenal of individual stories you can tell.

Most importantly, the more you practice this approach, the easier it ends up being. So, the next time you are standing there with an empty drink & dont know what to express, remember to take a deep breath & take your attention from inside of you to the environment around you. You might acknowledge there's a whole lot more to talk about than you previously thought. .

Author: Shawn McKibben Shawn McKibben is the founder of simplefellow.

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